A private, three-minute check-in on the five areas that keep relationships healthy: communication, trust and safety, connection, conflict and shared goals. Your answers never leave your device.
20 statements · about 3 minutes · completely private — your answers never leave your device.
Why a regular check-in helps
Most relationships don’t change overnight — they drift. A short, honest check every few months helps you notice small changes early and choose one area to focus on together. Pair it with our relationship check-in template.
Signs of a healthy relationship
- You can disagree without fear.
- You both feel listened to and appreciated.
- Arguments end in repair, not silence or contempt.
- You share some dreams and support each other’s individual ones.
Important: this tool is for reflection only and is not a diagnosis. If you ever feel unsafe, controlled or afraid, please contact a local domestic-violence hotline or emergency services.
Frequently asked questions
How do I know if my relationship is healthy?
Healthy relationships usually combine safety, respect, honest communication, affection and the ability to repair after conflict. This check helps you reflect on each area.
Should my partner take it too?
Yes — take it separately, then compare which areas you each scored lowest. The differences are often the most useful conversation.
What if my score is low?
Focus on one area at a time and consider speaking with a licensed couples therapist, who can help you both feel heard.